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Warrior: Why I Wrote This Book & Why You Should Read It

Warrior: Why I Wrote This Book & Why You Should Read ItI have exciting news. WARRIOR, my memoir is coming on April 5th.

I am extremely proud of this book as it took years to put together, and a lot of healing in the interim.

WARRIOR tells the story of my life.

In fact, WARRIOR tells the story of all of my lives.

Because in my thirty plus years I feel like I’ve lived ten lives.

It shares my journey of being a tomboy, living in a log cabin where I helped care for my mother who I was very close too, and who died of cancer when I was ten.

I was a talented athlete. I won accolades in high school, and pitched on the softball team for Villanova University. I was voted All-East Pitcher of the Year, Academic All-America, and later I pitched professionally in Italy.

I became a fitness contest participant and winner, and model.

I served in the United States Marines Corps, won leadership awards, became a platoon leader, and served in Iraq, leading 150 Marines on several dangerous missions.

And…I was world class at being cruel to my mind and body- telling myself I was not good enough when I didn’t win a game, when my body was not as fit as I wanted it to feel and look, when I didn’t get good enough grades, when I was made fun of in school, when anything external allowed me to feel less than perfect. To top it off, I also became a world-class bulimic, sometimes throwing up sometimes seven times a day.

Yes, for years I fought my own war, struggling to balance several of these lives at once, while hiding that one secret life. Finally, to overcome that secret war, I learned that I needed to call up every ounce of strength I could muster, strength I never knew I had. I learned then that your true strength lies within you.

In WARRIOR I take you with me into all of my lives in intimate and vivid detail. I examine every important relationship I had, no matter how personal, difficult, and, at times, painful. I take you into my Marine training and deployment into the guts of the Corps, learning hand to hand combat, mountain warfare training and becoming—not without difficulty and some hilarity—a Marine Corps engineer and platoon leader, and then dealing with sexual harassment, arriving in Iraq, and finally facing my eating disorder head on and deciding to return home via being medevaced.

We all face wars inside us. Our foes are self doubt, regret, loneliness, loss, fear of failure, and the need to be in control. Our weapons are love for ourselves, good friends, exercise, healthy eating, rest, quiet, and living in each and every moment. Choosing to use these weapons means you are in the arena battling for your life each and every day. The glory goes to you, just being in the arena, and knowing there will always be critics (even yourself) wanting you to fail, feel less than, etc.

I continue to live my daily life in a male dominated world as doctor of physical therapy and strength & conditioning coach. I’ve realized my calling. I run a physical therapy practice and I run a CrossFit class for wounded warriors and adaptive athletes, helping them develop strength and improve their movement. I am the instructor, but these inspiring men and women teach me way more than I could ever teach them. I work with a mother of two, a former Marine, who wages her war with adrenal cancer and does not know when her last day on this earth will be. I work with a young veteran who lost his leg above the knee in Afghanistan. I work with a double amputee who served in Iraq. I work with a Naval Officer who was sexually assaulted by one of her peers.

They share their stories, they reveal their vulnerabilities, they give me their hearts. We laugh, all of us, and we cry sometimes. They curse, not at their plight, but at not being able to do one more rep or push themselves for thirty more seconds. Yet, I tell them. You haven’t done that one more rep yet. We work together, we cheer each other on. This is my new team, the team I lead, the team I pitch for now.
I tell them that asking for help makes you strong.
Asking for help makes you a warrior.
I am a warrior.

I wrote this book because I think I can help.

I believe my story to be many peoples’ story, perhaps the story of someone you know, or perhaps even your story.

Here is what Kirkus Reviews wrote in a rave review:
“By turns honest and heartbreaking, Larson’s book is a celebration of inner strength. It is also a poignant reminder that the mark of a true warrior is not just someone who fights wars, but who also knows how to “ask for help” in times of crisis. A courageous and inspiring memoir.”

I used to believe that I had to be perfect. I used to believe looking fit and winning games meant I was good enough. It took me a lifetime and living several lives to find out that no such thing as perfection, and strength is so much more than what it looks like.

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5 Steps to Avoid Social Media Envy

5 Steps to Avoid Social Media Envy

Let’s be honest. How many of you have felt a tinge of envy when you see a friend’s Facebook post in some awesome place doing some awesome thing? Or wonder what they’re doing in life that you’re not doing to allow them to do such cool things? I know I have, and it’s ridiculous.

Now that I am in full swing launch mode for my upcoming book ‘Warrior’, I am quite active on social media 6 days of the week. As I use social media more and more, I have become hyper-aware of how curated most posts are. Most original posts seem to be the best moments of that person’s day or recreations of a happy moment. When I compare those to the offline conversations I have with people, usually that person’s reality isn’t what was posted. I understand – who wants to frown into a camera? But who realistically has awesome moments all day long?

Many of you might think, “that’s obvious, Dr. T!” I want to dig a bit further into this, because the repetitive dopamine cycle we fall into with social media isn’t necessarily good, and it’s hard to break.

I wanted to share some methods I’m working on to keep social media in its place so it does NOT get in the way of doing what I love, does NOT cause me envy or anxiety and does NOT keep me from being present with those physically around me. I hope these resonate with you. #5 is the most important of all!

1. When I scroll through my feeds, I remind myself to consider the source of the post. Some posts are intended to be uplifting, others attention-seeking. The poster made a choice not to show the cursing and sweating during the hike to that mountain vista, not the half-dozen fails before hitting the PR I’m watching nor the sad moment earlier in the day.

2. I know social media activity has been shown to be addictive (dopamine and narcissism are the key culprits). If, upon a happy or sad moment, I feel the need to tell the world about it, I know I’m giving in to that addiction, that my brain is seeking more and more social media stimulus, more and more dopamine-driven emotion, pleasure, and want. In these moments I shut off my phone.

3. I try to be happy for the person posting. Being authentically happy for others can really help in avoiding low moments. Everyone is unique and gets unique opportunities, some more than others. I do not have to know their whole story. Reminding myself to be authentically happy for someone helps me quickly get past jealous thoughts, and keeps the gifts of my own life in perspective.

4. When I get tired of only seeing inauthentic or staged posts, I consider posting my reality in that moment. People may hate it, people may like it. But it is ME, and it is real. One fourth of Americans have anxiety and or depression. Posting real sh*t can be really nice and helpful for someone who is having a bad day. Showing how life can be messy is a good thing. Just wait until all my book quotes start coming out…those show some of my messes.

5. I focus inward. The more I focus on caring for my own inner nature- quiet time, being present to my husband, human interaction versus text, the less I need or care about what others are doing. The more I focus on seeking approval from others the more I need to be in the know or find myself spending hours on Facebook.

Social Media is addicting, but it can be controlled. Try the 5 steps above and enjoy your reality. Post YOUR reality but only because you want to, not because you feel you NEED too. Give yourself time away from looking at other peoples’ lives and ENJOY and be present in your own.

For more on dopamine and social media addiction, read here.

5 Ways to Fight the Dark Side

5 Ways to Fight the Dark Side

“How do I know the good side from the bad side” – Luke Skywalker
“You will know when you are CALM, at peace. Passive.” – Yoda

Obi Wan Kenobi describes the Force as what gives a Jedi his power. It’s an energy created by all living things and surrounds and penetrates us. Some have stronger forces than others. I am sure most of us choose light over dark- I would hope! Dark sides in our lives can take the form as negative thoughts, self harm, lack of self care, the drive to be perfect, wanting to harm others, unfocused, out of control, mean, and/or selfishness. The light side takes the form of patience, love, taking in the good in situations, discipline, health, the acceptance and love for yourself, the ability to stick up for yourself, being calm, genuine, and compassionate.

So to avoid more dark side behaviors that can suck us in and create tapes that are distorted, let’s nip the dark side in the butt early on, and start creating the light side of the Force behaviors.

Here is how:
1. Perform Self Care 10-15 minutes a day. Picking up a piece of your favorite mobility equipment and going after the knotted, stiff, sore tissue in your body is a good idea daily. 10-15 minutes a day 2-3 minutes each spot/technique can help change the physiology of your musculo-skeletal system. This will also help you eliminate pain in your body and allow you to be pro-active about your health. 96-98 % of all injuries out there are preventable. Also the dark side hates it when you’re healthy and pain-free.

2. Spend 5 minutes a day in stillness and quiet. This is where your body, mind, and soul can connect and find some balance. We all live busy lives, and the dark side feeds on a monkey-like mind that likes to be negative and self- defeating. Consistency is key in this arena, and one of the best times of the day is in the morning before your home wakes up or evening when everyone is in bed. Make it your time to fill your souls cup!

3. Move 45 min to 1 hour per day in your favorite activity– could be yoga, walking, hiking, running, weight training or anything else. Move it or lose it. The dark side likes a sedentary, non-moving human being who hates good posture and really loves sitting in a dumpy position. Enjoy exercise of your choice, sit and stand frequently during your day, and me sure to smile when you are training!

4. Say I love you to someone. Saying I love you is a positive, uplifting message and can be said to those who you have really really strong feelings for. This could be a really good friend or your significant other. It is a good practice to do this because just by you saying it gives positive energy to not only you but your friend or significant other. The light side Force is then spread around which is not what the dark side wants.

5. When you are in a sticky situation, are being challenged by emails, phone calls, to -do’s etc take the time to BREATH 3 long slow breaths (5 seconds in, 5 seconds out) filling up the belly AND RIB CAGE. This is a great way to check in and build energy because you broke the chain of frantic events and gave yourself a chance to ground in the moment so to speak. Using your breath as a tool to take a quick break. Vacation, time to center/ground in the moment is like a small dose of serotonin or dopamine that we all need during our day. The dark side likes stressed out, frantic, miles long of to-do’s.

Choose the LIGHT!

Photo credit: http://starwars.wikia.com/wiki/Yoda

Experiencing Humanity

Experiencing Humanity

I was sitting on my night flight to Tel aViv and was having a hard time falling asleep, so I stood up in the isle. I saw a young man bowing down on a rug in the bulk head area. I watched him for a moment. There were a couple men lined up behind him waiting to use the rug. I had an immediate flashback of some of the news and intelligence I was given on the Muslim people before I left on Convoys in the Al Anbar province. I found myself wanting to judge these men…..but caught myself! I reminded myself, that I know nothing about them, they are human beings, and maybe I need to break some barriers I have built.

These men were Muslim, and performing their 5th Call to Prayer during the day. So to help start breaking the barriers in my own heart and brain, I decided to talk to one of the Saudi Arabian men who were waiting in line to use the rug. I asked him about himself- where he was from, his family, what his experience was like performing 5 Call to Prayers a day. He looked at me with the most kind eyes and said, he was taking his family on a pilgrimage to Saudi Arabia where he was from. He mentioned he enjoyed taking time each day to worship because it gives him peace. It is like meditation he said a way to find calm. My heart and mind was smiling. My judgement had since passed and new pathways and experiences in my mind and heart were being created because I was connecting with a human being…a human who belongs to a religion that is very often judged.

I feel I am an educated woman who still can get swayed by my experience in the Marines, the intelligence I received, what I read and hear in the media, and what people around me talk about. I studied the Palestinian Israeli conflict in college as my major was Political Science with an emphasis on International Relations. I can study, read, hear all I want, but meeting people, experiencing the culture first hand I learned the most. Listening to the Call to Prayers, visiting the Blue Mosque in Istanbul, staying in a beautiful Palestinian hotel in Jerusalem, being herded through a check point in Bethlehem and scoffed at by one of the guards, walking the steps of Jesus Christ on the Via Delorosa in the Old City of Jerusalem, being escorted by a poor Palestinian man, praying and meditating it the Garden of Gettsemene, standing on the womens side of the Western Wall or Wailing Wall, being conned into getting my tennis shoes shined, floating in the dead sea gave me so much perspective on life and what truly life is like outside of what news I hear and read in Southern California. It was incredible and an experience I will never every forget.

The one place where there was peace and everyone treated each other with respect, there were no pissing matches, no issues with prayer time was when I was in the CrossFit gyms. I had the opportunity to teach the Movement and Mobility Course in the two countries was Isreal and Turkey, and despite the conflict with the government in Turkey and its people, the Palestinians and Israelies in Israel, there was no animosity or issues inside the gym. It was as if the box/gym arena all prejudices, ego’s, conflict was put to the side, and change really could happen, friendships were formed, movement improved, lives improved, and nothing but gains were made.

My judgements and beliefs were squashed and new ones were formed. I am so grateful for the experience to travel- as I learn and experience humanity at its finest, weakest, and its actual reality! As a human who has been judged harshly by her own piers and who has also judged, my eyes, heart, and mind are open to experiencing what is true and real and dismissing anyone, anything who chooses to live life through judgement.

Experiencing Humanity

Experiencing Humanity

Experiencing Humanity | Religion | Christian

Experiencing Humanity

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Experiencing Humanity